February 27, 2019

In this week’s post I’m going to dissect a common aspect of financial abuse – jeopardizing a woman’s employment.

Without a job, it’s damned hard for a woman to leave an abusive man. The number one reason that women cite for going back to abusive men is money. They can’t...

February 3, 2019

Today is the ten-year anniversary of my mother’s death. Grief ebbs and flows. While I rarely go a day without thinking about her, the pain isn’t as sharp as it was at first. Except on certain days.

I’ve been in a foul mood the last week, so I apologize to anyone who had...

January 20, 2019

Trigger warning for discussions of sexual assault and rape. And if frankness about hand jobs bothers you, you might want to skip this post.

Women are accustomed to making sexual trade-offs in life, but we don’t talk about them much. This is better than that. I’d rather...

January 13, 2019

Okay. *takes deep breath* This is going to be a tough post to write, and I want to put some trigger warnings on it. Mainly – trigger warnings around attempted rape and sexual assault.

The past month a half of 2018 weren’t great for my mental health. I know a few friends...

January 2, 2019

I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions, though I do want to resume my regular blogging schedule. I set intentions by candlelight, after a cleansing bath. This year, I didn’t put anything new on the list. Instead, I reaffirmed.

 Sometimes I'm feeling myself, sometimes I'm fee...

June 25, 2018

    Writing a little more about my experience in court last week.  This week, I want to talk about pettiness.

The Art Deco courthouse is truly beautiful.


    In my custody re-negotiations I asked for language to be added around extracurricular activities....

June 18, 2018

     Women's voices have been having a cultural moment.  From #metoo to #timesup, many of us feel like we're finally being heard.  Perhaps our voices might matter and bring about change.  For me, as a domestic abuse and rape survivor, my emotions have swung between hea...

June 8, 2018

It's a simple statement, but profound.


After my son was born my ex accused me of loving our baby more than loving him.  He'd often say that I spent more time with our baby than with him - ignoring the very real fact that newborns take an incredible amount of time, atte...

May 28, 2018

Ever heard the expression - the Cobbler's Children go Barefoot? Yeah...that would describe my blog at the moment.


I've been doing a lot more content writing and marketing work, helping a client design a digital marketing and blog strategy and performing an SEO audit on...

April 1, 2018

It’s been quiet on here the last month - sorry! I’ve been *takes deep breath* starting a new job, finding, renting and moving into a new apartment, dealing with movers (UGH) and hassles with said movers (and the boyfriend in MA is the hero of the revolution for handlin...

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